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Grandma Alice was more than a little lost after her husband died. Married for over 50 years, their household ran like a well-oiled machine. A slow adjustment was understandable.
Showing Alice how to reset the thermostat and clocks for daylight savings time had taken Bonnie almost an hour. As they sat down to tea, Bonnie tried to be positive. “Grandma, think of it this way: now you’re the boss!”
Grandma Alice was horrified. “Oh, Bonnie, no. I never wanted to be in charge.”
In the May series, Genuine Power, we’ve talked about power as a crushing force. Now imagine the opposite end of the scale. When subconscious limiting beliefs creep in, we become selectively powerful. Over time, “I don’t like to do that” becomes “I can’t do that” or “Someone needs to do this for me.” This is what happened for Jill.
Mark mentioned that his cousin had said yes to the Washington DC job offer. Everyone at lunch was excited for Jill, but Mark seemed skeptical. It was a solid position with a prominent consulting firm, complete with a generous relocation package. What was wrong with that?
Mark recanted. “OK, you guys are right. Of course it’s a great job, but something keeps bothering me. Jill will be a train ride home to Connecticut at the drop of a hat. That’s good but not so good. Why should she make the effort to put down roots? She can go out with her high school friends and crash with her parents as often as she wants. That’s what happened when she worked in New York City. I want her to make an effort to connect with new people.”
He shook his head. “She’s kind of drifted in the last few years. She keeps switching jobs, but her job title is always the same. Then she took a year off and lived in Italy. I’m hoping the change of scenery is just what she needs. Jill convinced my aunt to go to DC for a couple of weeks to help her settle in. The whole family has got their fingers crossed. We hope this job really takes off for her.”
It all sounded reasonable. Donna tried to put his fears at ease. “C’mon, we’ve all been there. Who didn’t switch jobs and want to travel to Europe after college?” she laughed.
Mark did a double-take. “Oh, I didn’t tell you? My cousin Jill is 42.”
Jill was a grown-up, but not all the time. Hanging out with her besties and expecting Mom to settle her into the new apartment kept her a high school senior.
This is the week to reflect on your fears about being fully empowered. Courage is the transformational cornerstone of genuine power. Turning a blind eye to the details and then wishing for the best is just that – a wish.
Take some baby steps and start welcoming power into the cracks and crevices of your life. It’s ok – be in charge!