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Did you have some fun conversations last week about your strengths and weaknesses? Were a few places a little tender, like touching a big cactus? Me, too. Let’s just say I’ll be leaving home repairs to journeymen contractors. My mechanical skills should only be reserved for entertainment value!

In this week’s installment of Just Watch, we’ll build on the insights you gained last week. The trick is to use your self-awareness to find a job you really love.

Author Lynn Robinson likes to use a simple discernment quiz with her counseling clients. It comes with two pieces of good news: you can do it in seconds and there are only right answers.

Whether you’re a newbie looking for a job or a seasoned pro trying to determine whether you’re still in the right place, give these ideas a try:

  • “I take this offer.”
  • “This person is my manager.”
  • “I’m here a year from now.”
  • “I’m here in another 5 years.”

As you read through the statements, did your stomach turn over? Did you feel an enthusiastic “oh, yeah!”? Skip past the mental gymnastics, justifications and rationalizations. Maybe it’s as easy as “yuck” or “yum”.

I was excited when Carrie told me she was leaving L.A. After years of television consulting, she wanted to find something permanent. I did a double-take when she told me the station was in San Antonio.

“C’mon, it will be a fun ride. My husband’s staying here for a while, but he’ll join me soon. I’m finally going to be a Programming Director!”

We celebrated, but I had doubts. Carrie was a fast talking, big city girl, not someone who line danced in honkeytonks.

Four months later, she was back in town. Not for a visit. For good. Her big ideas and bold plans made sense to everyone…except her boss. What could have gone so wrong so fast?

She said, “I was so nervous when I met the Station Manager, but I liked him. I should have known there was something wrong when he kept telling me story after story about his Emmys. They were impressive, but it was from a station he worked at in the ‘90s. Now I realize we were talking past each other. I was too busy proving my credentials to realize he wanted everything done his way. I’m glad I got out before my husband sold our house.”

Carrie’s boss wasn’t looking for a diverse hire with fresh ideas. He really wanted a mini-me. Carrie’s weakness was getting ahead of herself. However, she was smart enough to cut her losses when she understood there wasn’t a place for her independent, powerful perspective. She ended up using those strengths for a local affiliate in L.A.

This week, practice the Soul Boss skill of discernment. Quietly listen to what your instincts are shrewdly telling you about that flashy offer or sure thing. There’s no need to overthink your way to the perfect answer. Yuck or yum?