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“I had this revelation, “I’m happy! This is what happiness feels like.””
Ah…that sounds like true love.
The February series, Your Naked Soul, has looked at creating healthy relationships. Love is more than an intense feeling or smart head decision. At best, it is a full experience, enveloping mind, body and soul. Plain and simple, it’s feeling happy.
This is what Adam G. found out. He tells:
“After my Hollywood writing career hit a sudden wall, I got a job with BMW Design to write a movie about how they design cars. When I arrived in Munich, they gave me a brand new convertible sports car and said “Take it up to the Alps for a few days and come back when you feel like you understand the car.”
Speeding through the snowy Alps, blasting music, roof down, heater fan blowing, I had this revelation, “I’m happy! This is what happiness feels like.”
And then I had a second revelation: “If my wife were here, she’d tell me to slow down. Turn down the music. Put up the roof. And she’d be complaining about smelling cigarette smoke from passing cars.”
In that moment, I realized I had forgotten what it felt like to be happy in my body.”
How painful. And yet, each of us has been Adam, listening to the small, internal voice speaking the truth. During his drive in the Alps, Adam realized his spirit had started to leave his marriage, and it might be time for his body to follow.
Discernment is an important building block in the Soul Boss foundation. Exercising sensitive judgment means you’re aware of what works, whether you’re casually interacting with the office receptionist or having a deep conversation with your Beloved. Knowing when you’re happy in your body is a form of discernment. It’s taken a lot of shapes in this series:
- In Blocking the One, we met people frustrated with online dating. No matter how many services they used, the perfect match seemed elusive. Once they opened themselves to new possibilities outside their app filters, flawed, but meaningful, relationships began to take shape.
- After a fling with a Brazilian fizzled, Laura Fraser began shifting her relationship patterns. The irresistible but self-involved men in her past slowly began to lose their appeal. Once she decided to Be the Brazilian, she found someone who loved her true self.
- The couple in Do Something didn’t appreciate how their individual choices were gradually derailing their marriage. By contrast, Iman tenderly remembered David Bowie’s quiet demonstrations of love. She wisely understood that their long marriage was built on his gentle, persistent actions, not wealth or fame.
During his recent trip to Mexico, Pope Francis said, “Mercy encourages us to look to the present, and to trust what is healthy and good beating in every heart.” Perhaps February isn’t ending quite the way you hoped. However, allow yourself to trust what you already know about your relationships. Trust the good that is beating in your heart. Be happy in your body.