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There’s a common way to start sentences in the great state of Texas: “I’m fixin’ to.” Yes, ask most Texans what their day holds, and you’ll hear many variations about what they’re fixin’ to do.

What happens when they’re on that second cup of coffee instead of working on a report that’s due? “Don’t worry – I’m fixin’ to do that.”

Household chores piling up? “Oh yeah – I’m fixing to do some laundry tonight.”

And are the cupboards looking a little bare? “No problem. I’m fixing to go to the grocery store later.”

You get the idea. It’s a little bit of a brush off, but there’s no harm intended. And that’s why it ties into the March series about conscious creation, Light it Up. Is fixing to do something a crutch?

Rupa loves to chat about her bright future. She’s expecting a breakthrough in her songwriting career soon. She’s anxious to find a new boyfriend, someone who will be a true partner. And did she mention that she also wants to move?

It should all be doable. There’s just one problem.

Doing it all at the same time isn’t.

The stakes are so high in every area of Rupa’s life that she’s paralyzed by the thought of making the wrong move. So she hesitates before acting. And without action, there’s no manifestation.

It’s understandable that she’s not making much progress. And that leads her back to the same story every few months: Career, boyfriend, moving. Which reminds me of another Texas saying: “All hat, no cattle!” (For my international audience, the translation is, “Great presentation; not much substance.”)

There’s hope if you feel like you’re stuck in a similar vicious cycle. Claire Diaz-Ortiz confronted the idea of how to personalize priorities in her article, “Bucket Lists Are Great, But Your Day-To-Day Happiness Deserves A List Too.” She writes:

When it comes to life, the things that fill you up should be the priorities, the non-negotiables, and the never-leave-by-the-waysides. These are the things that should be at the forefront of our minds when making tough decisions, and at the top of our daily (or weekly) to-do lists. Because without them, we’re dust.

This is the week for some good-natured trial and error. Lower the bar of doing everything flawlessly and turn your focus toward what lights you up. A key Soul Boss quality is the willingness to do the work. Focus on the basics such as family, health, or creativity, or aim for your highest intention. Wherever you choose to begin is fine, but you must get started.

Still bewildered by too many options? Here are your emotional guideposts: Fun. Loving. Kind. Gratifying. Pick three things and then get going. If they don’t work out, you can write off the results with a relaxed, “Oh well,” “Live and learn,” or “Next!”

Being filled up won’t weigh you down; it will power your life in a positive direction. Diaz-Ortiz urges, “Be full, and lead better. Be full, and mother more. Be full, and rock the world.” Change “I’m fixing to…” to “I’m fixed on…”.