creative problem solving, facing your insecurities, overcoming your shadow, shadow work, the shadow side of ego, tranforming the shadow, using both sides of your brain, using your left and right brain
Your left brain is your friend.
You’re probably thinking, “What? The left brain only focuses on facts and data. Why limit myself? If I’m concentrating on following my gut instincts, shouldn’t I rely on my right brain?”
You’d be right, but is preferring one side or the other too simplistic? The April series, Transformers, is looking at transforming our shadow, and that includes reshaping how we think.
Reason and structure are important in the five sensory world. They help us solve every practical problem, large or small, in our path. The key is to seamlessly merge the analytics that dominate our day with intuition. Without insight and creativity, our logical response – even if it’s correct – can abruptly fall flat.
“Lori, just one more stop and then all our errands will be done.”
“OK, Chandra. Where are we going?”
“We just need to swing by Target on our way home.”
Lori tensed up. “Hmm…you know what? I need to respond to a few emails. Maybe we can go home and then you can go ahead while I get some work done.”
“That’s ridiculous,” Chandra shot back. “We only need a few things. Why go home and then go out again?”
Lori hesitated. “This way, you can spend as much time as you’d like. I won’t slow you down.” As she glanced over, she could tell she wasn’t making headway. Chandra was getting agitated.
“Lori, I don’t get why you’re making this a big deal.”
“I’m not sure how to say this.”
“Say what? What’s going on?”
“Nothing. It’s just that you, uh… You get a little crazy at Target.”
“What? You’re not serious.”
“Well…yes. It’s a running commentary about everyone else’s problems all the way through the store. Someone is going too fast or too slow. Checking out is always an adventure. After 10 minutes, I’m exhausted!”
Lori grinned. “Babe, you know I love you, but being at Target together is like shopping with your evil twin!”
If you find your mind working overtime like Chandra, try repeating this phrase: “Step back, let go.” Power Words author Sharon Klingler describes it this way: “When you really step back and let go, you won’t allow yourself to be put into an adversarial role. You’ll be more invested in finding a peaceful outcome for all – and in creating a peaceful state of mind for yourself through simple detachment.”
Now envision Chandra and Lori’s shopping trip transformed, with compassion and a sense of timing matching Chandra’s razor sharp analytical skills.
Another empty cart in the middle of the aisle? Not again…but step back, let go.
Distracted shoppers everywhere you look? It’s not your problem to solve. Step back, let go.
And feeling like you must say something to the checker struggling with your order? Maybe another day. Step back, let go.
Pope Francis recently wrote, “By thinking that everything is black and white, we sometimes close off the way of grace and growth.” This week, practice balancing your emotions and rational mind. In a few words, you can open the door to grace and growth: “Step back, let go.”