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Have you met Mr. Murphy? Well you probably know his namesake, Murphy’s Law.

A key Soul Boss principle is that you can remain true to yourself as you adjust to changing circumstances. That means you stay on course when “anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.” Iaian Thomas captured this idea when he wrote, “Everything has changed and yet, I am more me than I’ve ever been.” In the May series, I’m Open To That, we’ll look at smart ways to be flexible and authentic.

Olivia kept trying different personalities; she just didn’t know it. As she sat down to her monthly breakfast with her cousin, Wade, he braced himself. What now?

“How are those courses going? Have you finished the IT administrator certification?”

“Oh, no,” Olivia said with a wave of her hand. “I’m going to be a developer, which is even better. Apps are the way to go.”

Wade was impressed. “That’s great! When are they coming out?”

Olivia shrugged her shoulders. “I’m not sure – I’m still working on the concepts. I don’t want to spend hours on my laptop, but apps should be quick to build – right? I know they’re going to be awesome!”

Two months later. Breakfast. First Saturday of the month.

Olivia rushed in. “Sorry I’m late – I was looking at supplies.”

Wade looked up from the menu. “Supplies? For apps?”

“No!” Olivia said. “I’m going into business with my husband. We’re going to flip houses – we love watching Property Brothers! We can keep supplies like kitchen fixtures in our garage.”

“Uh, don’t you need a fixer-upper first?” Wade teased.

“No problem – there are plenty of properties out there!” Olivia was beaming. “The debt load is going to be really tricky, but this is soooo much better than developing apps.”

And then three months after that…

Olivia dumped her bag and sank into the diner booth. After their house purchase fell through, it looked like the flipping business would have to wait, but that was ok. She had a new plan.

Wade shook his head. “Olivia, I can’t take this. Every few months, you have another scheme to make money.”

“Scheme! How can you say that? I’m an entrepreneur.”

“Yes – a bored entrepreneur. Every idea is supposedly better than the last, but each brainstorm blows you in a new direction. How about giving them a chance to work before you move on?”

Have you ever been Olivia, so anxious to respond that you skip past your internal compass? Author Caroline Myss highlighted the instability that can come with being too flexible. She said, “Feelings shouldn’t determine what we do, integrity does. Regardless of whether I’m happy or sad, I know what my integrity is.”

This week, poll your friends and family for 3 qualities they love about you. You may hear words like “wise,” “trustworthy” or “considerate.” Integrating your essential qualities into every situation – even the ones that go haywire – will keep you grounded. You’ll be “more me” than you have ever been.

And what about those surprises Mr. Murphy may send your way? You can say, “No problem – I’m open to that.”