Is your head aching? Is your stomach doing somersaults?
You must be a first-time Thanksgiving host.
You’re in the majority if you feel like everything must be perfect. Let me guess – you have a stack of recipes on the kitchen counter. You’ve already been up late deep cleaning the house. And, oh by the way, you need to find time to spruce up the outside.
The November series, Bye-bye Now, has focused on what we need to release. Having an event fit for a House Beautiful photo shoot is a great aspiration. But are your crazy high expectations taking all the fun out of the holiday?
Think of your best Thanksgiving conversations. Were they about a perfectly roasted turkey or matching place settings? Probably not. Years later, you’re still laughing over messy, spontaneous mishaps.
So let’s agree: Perfect is overrated.
This is what Nia found out. She loved her job being out and about as a Tech Support Specialist. She was never stuck behind a desk doing the same thing all day.
Nia wasn’t too concerned when her boss, Ron, announced that he was leaving. He had given her a solid foundation by making introductions at his old accounts. Then he made the transition smooth by shadowing her the first month on the job. Surely she wouldn’t have trouble maintaining the pace.
But her new boss did, washing out in less than 6 months. And the hire after that, who had trouble selling her house two states away and decided to return to her old job.
Then the reorg happened. Nia was valuable to the team at large, but the perfect fit was anybody’s guess. She was assigned to one group after another.
Her shortest manager tenure? Three weeks.
How did Nia cope? By saying bye-bye now to perfectionism. She told me, “I loved so many things about this job. I knew I wasn’t done here.”
“But Ron left a huge hole. It became apparent that it was going to take time for everything to fall into place. And that was before the reorg! Everything was really up in the air after that.”
“I wish I could have worked for Ron forever. We made such a great team! But I had to adjust. My attitude with every new manager became, “Hi, I’m Nia, and I’m here to help.”
“No question was off limits. Background on my biggest account? Sure! Where should you take your potential client to lunch? No problem.”
She sighed, “If I got upset with every shift and change, I knew I’d be spending a lot of time upset. And I didn’t want to spend 8 hours a day upset.”
Pushing perfectionism often has the opposite intended effect – it puts a stranglehold on creativity. This week, decide that you can keep your sense of humor, even if something doesn’t go according to plan. Especially if something doesn’t go according to plan!
Keeping an attitude that you’re going to be in the flow, no matter what? That’s perfect.